He was once asked how he still manages to stay in love with his spouse even after they were old, wrinkled and grey. They stood around, expecting a reaction more than a response from him. It was fun for them, but it was the story of his life.
He wasn't angry or surprised or moved. He looked up with the same sparkle in his eyes he had 27 years ago, took a sip of tea with his now trembling hands and set the half empty cup aside. He looks at them, gasps in the pause and get on to tell them the story that will be imprinted to their hearts.
When he first met his wife, he thought she was crazy beautiful. However, he wasn't truly in love with her then. He didn't know her, but saw her from afar. To him, she was like beautiful art, truly gorgeous.
Then he got to know her. They became the best of friends first. Not an intimate relationship, just friends! He then learnt that she was truly beautiful inside too. That is when he began to fall in love with her. It was not because of her looks, it was because of the person she was.
And now, they have been married for 27 long years!
Talking about physical changes, his wife is a bit older now. Her hair is grey . . actually a vibrant purple most of the time. Her lips are less full. She sees her mother when she looks in the mirror. In fact, he says, she is doing better than him, as when he looks in the mirror, he sees his grandfather! She has a few lines around her eyes. While the world and the millennials in particular, call them wrinkles, or signs of old age . . he prefers to always call them Laugh Lines.
He says. "I made her laugh and laugh for 30 long years now. Those little cute lines are my trophies. I worked hard to create them. I tried to keep her laughing and smiling while knowing she is loved more and more. I would be heart broken if she ever wanted to get rid of them..."
He is a practical romantic. He truly believes that you grow in your love of the other. In other words, the person you got to know, got married to, got to spend your life with is the person who will be truly be there for you no matter what! You have survived the 'impetus youth' stage and your appreciation for each other has deepened over time.
Perhaps that is why it is difficult to define love. It is ever so changing.
She doesn't have the same spring in her step. But she is still the very same woman he fell for all those years ago . . . slowly, then all at once. Now, he sounds like someone who can teach others a thing or two about love in today's world!